
First dates are really important for making a first impression and a bad first date can mean a deal breaker. It’s so easy to have a bad date too, even if everything goes right you could be doing common things that actually give bad vibes. When you’ve met a guy you like and really want to hit it off, here are five big no nos for a first date.
No-no #1: Talk about who is going to pay. There’s no reason to ever bring up the discussion of payment for the date in your conversation. Talking about money makes things feel forced and it’s much better for it to come up naturally, say when you pull out your purse at the end of the meal and start to get your card or cash. If he tells you to put it away, you know he’s paying. If not, assume you’re going dutch for the night. If he is expecting you to pay, end the date right there.
No-no #2: Leave your apartment or yourself a mess. Most women don’t expect to be bringing a man back to their place on a first date, but hey, it happens. If it does, you don’t want to leave your date waiting in the hallway while you hurry to clean up and if things make it to the bedroom you definitely don’t want any self-conscious feelings getting in the way.
No-no #3: Lie. Even if this is a relationship you don’t see going too far, the last thing you want to do is lie. If you don’t want to talk about something, say so, but any relationship built on a lie is going to fail and just in case you end up really liking your date you don’t want anything unnecessary to jeopardize it.
No-no #4: Discuss problems. He might’ve asked how your day was but he doesn’t want to hear about how Sue from the room next to yours stole your stapler, again. If problems are a normal thing at work, say you had a normal day and move on to something more pleasant. If you can’t get through one date without mentioning life’s problems he’ll think drama follows you.
No-no #5: Get drunk. It should seem obvious that getting wasted on a first date not only makes you look bad but makes your date feel that you aren’t interested, but sometimes getting drunk is an accident. If you are at a bar or restaurant that’s new to you, only get one drink, max. You don’t want to risk them making drinks stronger than you’re used to and overdoing it without even knowing it.
Of course there will be things during your first date that you can’t control, such as the service you receive or bad weather, but your date won’t be judging you on the things going on around you. Even if a date is bad due to things outside your control, your date will decide if he wants another based on you.





